I seriously cannot say enough great things about Falen’s Heartbroken Podcast. If you are ever having a rough day or just need a good tear jearker seriously check it out. Last week I had the opportunity to go to the first ever live recording of the podcast. Holy moly. Can we just say the girl-power in that auditorium was contagious? It was a full house at the Pillsbury Auditorium at the MIA. She did an amazing job for this brand new event.
Falen did a great job prefacing the story with background, her husband was the man in charge of the show, taking tickets, handing out flyers, taking photos, and passing the mic for the Q and A session. He was 100% in support of the work she was doing and it was incredibly evident. It was so wonderful to see.
Looking around the audience it was so interesting to see the wide variety of women. The emotional and physical abuse that occurs in relationships is not tied to one certain group of women. It can and does, unfortunately, happen to everyone. It doesn’t discriminate.
The woman who shared her story was beautiful. Like magazine model-esque. The romance that she described was one you could imagine in the movies. Trips to New York for shopping and Florida and California vacations for birthdays. It was like a dream. Then one day he was gone. He would disappear for days and weeks at a time. Blowing off family events and then days later would reach out to her like nothing happened and she would be upset, but she felt like she was stuck because of all the good things. It always surprises me the secrets that certain people keep from their significant others in new relationships. He kept some big things from her which ultimately led to the end of their relationship. The thing that gets me every time is how often we as women feel like we would be hurting them if we blocked them. Like our feelings or the number of times they hurt us is insignificant to theirs.
It kills me because for a long time I was that person. Every time he reached out I would respond because I felt that if I didn’t I’d be hurting him. It just goes to show how messed up gas-lighting and emotional abuse can make you. Your thought process is so messed up you feel like no matter what you do you’ll be wrong or make the wrong choice, even though that is not true. Obviously, I have come a long way and now have no problem not responding, keeping the evidence of the contact, and blocking the new number. His goal is to cause me additional pain and hurt and he doesn’t have that control over me anymore.
Ladies, I cannot stress enough that there is a way out. You will make it. He cannot do anything to you that you cannot pull through if you don’t let him. He can only take from you what you deem appropriate, so decide what you are willing to give up, make a conscious list when your mind is clear and never waiver.
That’s your journaling task for the week. What are you NOT willing to compromise when it comes to a relationship?
I am not willing to give up-
My alone time
My finances
My home
My friends
My family
My emotional well being
My workouts
Be strong ladies!
Get ready for our August Self-Care challenge. I will be giving away some awesome RyloCards, Brialynn Designs gifts, and Lularoe!
Who’s ready?
More details to come this week 😊
Catherine
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